I want a choice

I'm currently working on a paper for one of my English classes: David Hwang's M. Butterfly and the protagonist's, Gallimard, castration complex.
What a unique idea. A man is insecure in his masculinity and so petrified at the thought of being emasculated that his metaphysical phallus doesn't exist and thus, he peruses an extra-marital affair to reaffirm his masculinity. Jokes on him, because his love of twenty years is actually a man.
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Naturally, this made me think of my underware. 

The underwear I am wearing at this moment.

White, boy-short, with doodles of hearts, stars, and bells.

Not to sexy. More cute than sexy for sure, but that's my style. 

.Here's my point.

I recognize that even though my panty style is cute rather than sexy -it still appeals to someone.
Why can't a man recognize that his undergarment style is appealing to someone else as well.
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I'm saying -> I put panties on, I look good, I know (that if anyone was lucky enough) they'd think I look good.
MY QUESTION IS:
Are the panties I choose reaffirming my femininity because I have low self-esteem? 
If you know me, you know that I have some issues with self-esteem -but i'm a firm believer in faking it till I feel it.
So the answer is NO, me choosing cute panties is not a reflection of my self-esteem.
It could be, but it's not.
I have a large ass and a small waste, boy-shorts are the only logical choice for underware.

SO

just because a man is pursing an extra-marital affair doesn't mean he has some tyoe of complex.
maybe, he is just a "weenie," a "penis," a "cock" (to quote Hwang's many terms for the phallus [found Act II scene VI)

I'm sorry Jacques Lacan, the castration complex is just a cop-out. 

In my opinion, all complexes are cop-out.
Let's be real (or at least Sav is gonna level with you on how she feels at this moment)

people make choices, some are good some are bad, some are well thought out others are impulsive. Let's not make excuses for others.

We are who we are. And some people are just pigs that cannot control themselves.

It all comes back to self-control, discipline, and morals. 

So maybe tomorrow I'll wear a black lacy thong, or a pair of high cut briefs, or maybe no panties at all. but ultimately that's up to me. I make the decisions, no one makes them for me. And I sure as hell don't think it's a reflection on psyche what skivvies I choose to cover my privates with.